Checking in on your strong friends isn’t enough.
When you hear the phrase “Check on your strong friends”, it’s not even about checking in on us. Many times when you check on your strong friends, they will tell you “I’m okay!” “I’m fine!” Many times we’re not. We just don’t want to sit and share what we are going through because many times we feel like a burden or that our burden or concerns are way too heavy for you. We have trained ourselves to say “I’m okay” and smile.
Being the strong friend…you are the person that everyone comes to when they are sad, anxious, worried, stressed, and depressed. It’s usually the strong friends that needs the most support and gets the least. The strong friend is always expected to have it together, to think positive, to not worry, to not be upset, to not be scared because that is what we always do for other people. At the end of the day, we take on everyone else’s stuff and carry our own by ourselves.
So instead of just checking on your strong friends, how about giving your family and friends some grace when they are going through something and not making them feel like a burden or make them feel like their issues are too heavy for you. If you are overwhelmed with your own issues, that’s okay but offer some guidance or support for them to be able to speak to. That’s so much bigger than checking on your strong friends.
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