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I’ve always loved the imagery of mountaintops and valleys. The mountaintops represent joy, success, and the moments when everything feels right. The valleys? Those are the struggles, the hardships, the unexpected detours. But as I reflect on my journey—both personally and professionally—I realize that I’ve learned far more in the valleys than I ever did on the mountaintops.

The Mountaintops Are Beautiful, But…

There’s no denying the beauty of the mountaintop moments. They are the times when hard work pays off, when prayers are answered, when life feels easy. In teaching, these are the moments when a struggling student finally reads that first sentence fluently, when a lesson goes exactly as planned, or when a classroom feels like a family. As a mother, they are the moments when my children overcomes challenges, when I see them happy and thriving.

But as wonderful as these moments are, they don’t always teach us the deepest lessons. They are the result of the journey, not necessarily where the most growth happens.

The Valleys Are Where Growth Happens

The valleys of life are hard. They test our patience, faith, and resilience. I’ve walked through valleys of loss, uncertainty, and heartbreak. Losing my mother was one of the hardest valleys I’ve ever faced. Watching my son struggle with Type 1 diabetes has been hard, but through the challenges, I’ve learned the true meaning of resilience, faith, and finding strength in the hardest moments.

Yet, in these valleys, I’ve learned lessons that I never would have on the mountaintop:

• The Strength of Perseverance: When things don’t go as planned, when I feel like giving up, I’ve learned to keep pushing forward. Growth doesn’t come from ease; it comes from endurance.

• The Power of Empathy: Walking through struggles has made me more compassionate. I understand my students better, I advocate for my son more fiercely, and I connect with others who are hurting in a deeper way.

• The Importance of Faith: In the hardest moments, I’ve had to lean on my faith more than ever. It’s in the valleys that I’ve seen God’s provision, His timing, and His strength carrying me through.

• The Beauty of Small Victories: When you’re in the valley, even the smallest wins feel huge. A child learning a single sight word, a good day after a string of hard ones, a moment of peace in the chaos—these things matter.

Looking Back with Gratitude

I won’t pretend that I love the valleys. No one enjoys struggle. But when I look back, I see how much they’ve shaped me. I see how the hardest moments led to the deepest wisdom, the strongest faith, and the greatest appreciation for the mountaintops when they do come.

So, if you’re in a valley right now, keep going. There’s something to learn, something to gain, and one day, you’ll look back and realize that the valley was preparing you for something greater.

And when you finally reach the next mountaintop, it will be even more beautiful because of the journey it took to get there.

Supporting a loved one with mental health challenges can feel like navigating a minefield while blindfolded. But fear not! With a bit of humor and a lot of heart, you can be the superhero sidekick they need. Here’s your guide to being the best (and funniest) support system ever.

1. Become a Mental Health Guru

First things first, channel your inner Hermione Granger and hit the books. Learn about your loved one’s mental health condition so you can drop knowledge bombs and avoid awkward faux pas. Trust us, Googling “Is it normal to feel like a potato?” won’t cut it.

2. Master the Art of Listening

Put on your therapist hat and let your loved one spill the tea. Listen like you’re hearing the juiciest gossip ever, but without the judgment. Nod thoughtfully, throw in a few “Mmm-hmms,” and avoid saying, “Well, that’s crazy!” because, well, irony.

3. Play the Therapy Hype-Man

Encourage your friend to seek professional help like you’re hyping them up for a concert. “Therapists are like mental ninjas, and you, my friend, are about to get some serious ninja training!” Offer to help find one, and if they’re hesitant, remind them that even Batman had Alfred.

4. Channel Your Inner Zen Master

Patience, young grasshopper. Mental health recovery isn’t a Netflix binge—it’s more like a never-ending series. Celebrate the small victories, and don’t expect an instant glow-up. Remember, even the tortoise eventually won the race (and probably had anxiety).

5. Respect the Bubble

Give your loved one the space they need. Think of their mental health like a cat: sometimes it wants cuddles, sometimes it wants to hide under the bed. Respect their boundaries and don’t be that annoying person who pokes the cat.

6. Be Their Personal Assistant

Help with day-to-day stuff. Cook a meal, run errands, or be their Uber to therapy sessions. Just don’t start wearing a chauffeur’s hat. Or do, if that’s your style—no judgment.

7. Promote Health Like a Wellness Influencer

Encourage healthy habits. Suggest walks, smoothies, and sleep like you’re running a wellness Instagram. “Hey, want to do yoga in the park? No? Okay, how about we Netflix and stretch?” Keep it light, keep it fun.

8. Create a Chill Vibe

Make their environment as stress-free as a beach vacation. Light some candles, play some chill tunes, and banish negativity like it’s sand in your swimsuit. A zen den can do wonders.

9. Language Matters, Dude

Be mindful of what you say. Avoid phrases that stigmatize mental health. Instead of “You’re so OCD,” try “Wow, you’re really organized!” It’s like swapping out “sick” for “awesome” in the 90s—words matter.

10. Don’t Forget Yourself

You can’t pour from an empty cup, so make sure you’re taking care of numero uno. Grab a coffee, binge-watch your favorite show, or scream into a pillow (your choice). Keep your own mental health in check, because burnout is so last season.

Supporting someone with mental health challenges is like being their Gandalf: wise, supportive, and a little bit magical. With empathy, humor, and a dash of patience, you can help them navigate their journey. Remember, you’re not just a sidekick—you’re their hero in this mental health saga. And every hero deserves a little laughter along the way.